No one wants to hear everything that's in your head. They just want you to live up to what comes out of your mouth.
One of the signs of a bad coworker is a pattern of persistent undermining - intentionally hindering a colleague's success, reputation, or relationships.
Productive givers focus on acting in the long-term best interests of others, even if it's not pleasant. They have the courage to give the critical feedback we prefer not to hear, but truly need to hear. They offer tough love, knowing that we might like them less, but we'll come to trust and respect them more.
When young women get called bossy, it's often because they're trying to exercise power without status. It's not a problem that they're being dominant; the backlash arises because they're overstepping their status.
Agreeable people are warm and friendly. They're nice; they're polite. You find a lot of them in Canada.
Orang cenderung memiliki salah satu dari tiga 'gaya' interaksi. Ada pengambil, yang selalu berusaha melayani diri sendiri; matchers, yang selalu berusaha mendapatkan keuntungan yang sama bagi diri mereka sendiri dan orang lain; dan pemberi, yang selalu berusaha membantu orang.
No one wants to hear everything that's in your head. They just want you to live up to what comes out of your mouth.
Takers believe in a zero-sum world, and they end up creating one where bosses, colleagues and clients don't trust them. Givers build deeper and broader relationships - people are rooting for them instead of gunning for them.
From a motivation perspective, helping others enriches the meaning and purpose of our own lives, showing us that our contributions matter and energizing us to work harder, longer, and smarter.
If you've ever had a coworker actively interfere with your productivity, try to make you look bad, steal your ideas, or give you false information, you've been the victim of undermining.
Kita semua memiliki pikiran dan perasaan yang kita yakini sangat penting bagi kehidupan kita, tetapi itu lebih baik dibiarkan tidak terucapkan.
Authenticity is a virtue. But just as you can have too little authenticity, you can also have too much.
When you develop a reputation for being responsive and generous, an ever-expanding mountain of requests will come your way.
When you're good at controlling your own emotions, you can disguise your true feelings. When you know what others are feeling, you can tug at their heartstrings and motivate them to act against their own best interests.
The mark of higher education isn't the knowledge you accumulate in your head. It's the skills you gain about how to learn.