The pressure of the Premier League is huge but so is moving your family across the world to a club where they had sacked the manager every year for the last five.
We want to help the players be more comfortable in their own skin, a bit braver, a bit more aware and more understanding of each other.
My mum had always pressed on me to continue my education, and it was just the volatility of sport in terms of not being able to control the result.
I needed to learn to be a coach initially. I think if I'd gone into professional football when I stopped playing when I was 30 years old I'd have failed because I'd have made too many mistakes because I had no real idea at that time.
I played football because I loved the game - but I didn't enjoy the focus on not making mistakes and the culture being essentially one of blame and a little fear.
The competition that is the Premier League is the biggest challenge in itself. It's my job to get the players to believe that they can go in to every match and win.
But any squad needs players who are hungry to do well, with their careers ahead of them. That's important for the dynamic of the group, but it also needs a balance of guys who have seen it, done it and have that quality of leadership. It is all about the quality of the player.
Players are fundamentally the same - regardless of what they earn. They want to improve and want to be part of something.
If you identify those guys - something we have done in the past - who are not as valued in the current market for whatever reason and you look to get them to play at a higher level than where they have come from. That's how you develop the team.
My playing career that was a bit up but mostly down. I played in the Premier League at Southampton but most of my career was in the lower divisions.
Football is quite easy when you're doing well and winning games. It's when things aren't so good and they get tough, that's when the character and attitude stand up.
I had five years in the university sector which was a time where I could make my mistakes, develop with the students and players there. I also worked with the people at the university to put some concept and theory on my own experiences.