I was always the 'boring' type. I was into the stats and spending hours and hours and hours studying them. I was always more a manager than a player.
In any game, you have to work to stay in it, especially away against a good team like Southampton. It's a fantastic club and one I've said on a few occasions Cardiff City would do well to emulate, both on and off the field.
Every single player needs that eye-to-eye connection, I'm sure. They want to know what is expected of them, but it's not just me telling them what to do. It's about asking, 'What are your strengths? What do you feel? What can you give to the team?'
I understand there are so many managers who would love to be manager of Manchester United, and I am one of them.
My best ability was in just being ready when I was called upon. Then, I would be fit, and my legs would be light. If you sulk and are on the bench, and the gaffer calls you on, you are not ready because there's something going on in your head.
The only way I know to get out of disappointment is to work hard, keep doing the right things, and don't make any rash decisions.