I think that that's so true for a lot of first responder families and military families. If you ask them, 'Is there anything I can do for you?', they almost always will not ask for that help.
There's no road map. There's no textbook on how grief works and when your heart will be open - or if it ever will.
A couple of times, I felt like I was cracking and I couldn't go on, and God would put another person in my place to help me.
The blessing is that my kids have a lot of strong men and strong marriages around them, so I feel like they are getting what they need as far as role modeling. So I don't feel the pressure for them.
Sometimes you will think you can't take it another day. But if you hang in there, one step at a time, you will be able to accomplish more than you ever imagine.
From the days of Cain and Abel, we know all too well there will always be evil. But that evil shouldn't take away our freedoms.
Many of us who have cars have felt some form of extreme anger at other drivers because we feel they have put us in harm's way. We might even envision ramming their cars or cutting them off in return, but do we actually do it? No, because the overwhelming majority of us never want to take another human life.
I'm extremely grateful to all the first responders, veterans and their families for all their sacrifices.
The body is the one thing you have to say goodbye to. You can hold on to your memories. You can hold on to the spirit. That's part of the package that you love and the part that comforts you.