The burden of citizenship is accepting that what is neither your fault nor your responsibility may be your problem.
Frankly, as secretary of state, if somebody treats you badly because you're a woman, it's your fault - not theirs.
This is a fault common to all singers, that among their friends they will never sing when they are asked; unasked, they will never desist.
Now that we've seen broader representation of trans identities, I think it's safer to explore the fault in these trans characters and make them entirely human and three dimensional.
I was so determined not to pass on to my children what I perceived to be the faults of my upbringing.